Today's New York Times article, Many Women at Elite Colleges Set Career Path to Motherhood, irritates the crap out of me. I hate that there is still an expectation one must choose between career and motherhood. I hate that making such a choice is considered "realistic". I hate the fact that this issue is still mostly felt by women. I hate that I feel compelled to schedule a baby such that it would have the least impact on my experiment. Yes, I would actually feel genuinely guilty if I got pregnant while working. And I hate that the guilt is completely self-inflicted, since I have felt no external pressures in that regard. I hate that the feminist movement didn't bring about the change it promised. I hate that as much as I swear both can be done, my sister, mother of two and part-time prosecutor, continually tells me otherwise.
Yes, I know men are becoming more involved (e.g. David's sabbatical at home with Zoe). Yes, I know parenting duties are attended to by both parents these days. And yes, Debbie has shown that it is possible (Sophie, Sandra and Rosa too). But I can tell you right now, Sam isn't lying awake at night thinking how best to merge a biological clock and a career trajectory without either being sacrificed. And, as much as I love him, I hate that too.