Hey. Would you leave your personal phone number on your web page for anyone to grab and call? I'd never! But I'm behind the times (scroll down on this well known tech-blog and you'll find his cell phone). How about your email address? Or work number? I'll do that no problem. This all seems normal to me, and I don't see too much difference between what I do and what is the norm -- no matter the age group. Ok. Now, how about your IM handle(s)?
Instant Messaging is great. I have colleagues on all 4 of the major networks at this point (ICQ, MSN, AOL, and Yahoo) -- I now use Gaim so I don't have to run all four services. But I've noticed a fundamental difference between how I treat contacts and how, well, my undergraduate students do.
I think this stems from two different aspects of IMing, both privacy related. Theirs and mine.
First, theirs. This is especially true for people that I pay for or are graduate students of mine. I feel extremely awkward asking for their IM -- once I have it I can see when they are online -- when they are working, or when they aren't, etc. That feels like an unhealthy invasion of work-place privacy. Now, personally, I don't care as long as they are producing work, but won't they feel like they are being watched? It feels awfully big-brother to me. On the other hand, having the IM handle makes working with them much easier -- especially when they are 2000 miles away at Fermilab and I'm back at UW.
Second is my own privacy. If I were to give out my IM to everyone, wouldn't they always be contacting me? And I'd never get any work done. I've had friends say they frequently make themselves invisible to deal with just this problem.
As I write this I realize that IM also, for me, confuses the social bits of my life and the work bits. I would never, at a party, ask for someone's IM. Email, sure, but the IM seems so much more personal. In fact, as I look at my contact list I'd say ended up with 100% of the contacts through work. Even though many of my friends (especially out in Chicago) are not work related. Isn't that weird?
Now, I look at the undergraduate students in my class. On a mailing list viewable by anyone in the University of Washington they are posting their IM handles: "Hey, I'd love to be in a study group, just IM me at xxxx".
Maybe I should take the plunge. At work: what if I gave my IM out to all my students -- I'm sure for some of the harder HW problems they'd love to be able to ask a quick question. But what if I wanted to be able to be invisible to my students on, say, a Saturday night, but not some other friends of mine? Ahh! I could get two accounts.
Ok, I'm old. Never looks good when an old guy tries to be young. ;-)